A spurned wife, her gallic husband who ghosted her and a pile of horse poopoo

He was separated from his current wife and their divorce papers were being drawn up but not yet cast in stone, so the lady said when she fell in love with her to-be husband/ husband/ ex-husband. I was rolling my eyes when I read this. That was a massive red flag. She must have been feeling very down from her recent break-up to fall for this crap.

Girls, never believe a man when he tells you that he is separating from his wife or they are together but they are essentially strangers. IT IS A LIE, he just wants to get between your legs. Somewhere his wife is crying or worse, unaware that her husband is cheating on her and thinking her marriage is steady and happy.

And no, girl, he isn't a serial monogamist. He just has a greedy penis, which he wants to stick into anything younger than him.

I spent a weekend reading the birth and demise of a rebound marriage:

Dec 2012
Hopeful of love

Early 2013
Meeting her to-be husband/ to be ex husband in Paris while nursing a broken heart 

Aug 2013
Getting engaged after knowing each other for 5 months
The 7 steps she would be taking to become a stepmom 
Concerned that marriage typically mean monogamy and maybe we should strip societal constraints and allow open relationships during marriage?
Using We-connect devices during long distance relationship (ew, too much info. Article was written in 2015) 

Mar 2014
about registering marriage in Dec 2013 and how it will not bend her to gender stereotypes

Apr 2014
How her husband's ex was terrorizing her 

May 2014
Her May wedding (Dec 2013 was for legality)

Aug 2014
Relating herself as one of the non-marrying kind like Brad and Angie (the ones who were willing to commit to having children together, but not the traditional confines of marriage, and before cracking in the end)

Sometime in 2014 - 2015
Extolling the virtues of a French Husband
Mistakes in handling her step-daughters (one 17 years old, one 6 years old)
Using sex to control her husband's smoking

Sep 2015
An article on ghosting (mentioned inside that she called someone out on it, but didn't say who. She wrote two articles on ghosting during the summer)
Confessed that her husband has been ghosting her all summer (but under a different pen name)

Oct 2015
Falling out of love with the husband who was ghosting her (and sleeping with a 20 year old)

Nov 2015
How it ended in a pile of shit (the 20 year old wrote her a poem on how she was crushing her husband's soul)
Reflections on the end of the marriage

Dec 2015
Throwing herself a fabulous divorce party (and admitting she used to judge ladies who did that)

The happy(?) divorcee wearing her tiara in the middle (her friend looks naked except for the necklace!)

Most Abused word in the English Language

No, it's not "Fuck".

It's not "revert", though that is pretty irritating to read when applied wrongly.

I don't claim to be a word nazi, but I really absolutely go INSANE when I see this word. "Kindly"

Was zum Teufel do people think that word mean?

"Kindly do this."

It always triggers me. People, "kindly" means this:

kindly

ˈkʌɪndli/

adverb

adverb: kindly

1. 1.

   in a kind manner.

   "'Never mind,' she said kindly"

   synonyms:

   benevolently, good-naturedly, warmly, affectionately, tenderly,lovingly, compassionately; More

   antonyms:

   unkindly, harshly

   • please (used in a polite request or demand, often ironically).

     "would you kindly explain what you're talking about?"

     synonyms:

     please, if you please, if you would be so good, if you wouldn't mind, have the goodness to, pray; More

adjective

adjective: kindly; comparative adjective: kindlier; superlative adjective: kindliest

1. 1.

   kind, warm-hearted, or gentle.

   "he was a quiet, kindly man"

   synonyms:

   benevolent, kind, kind-hearted, warm-hearted, generous, good-natured, humane; More

   antonyms:

   unkind, cruel

To me, when a person X use "kindly", it means X is essentially demanding that person Y  to do what X wants. Why not just say "do this", because that is what X actually meant? If X intended a polite request, then X should use the word "please". 

There is nothing kindly about "kindly".

My lovely modus operandi when I see this in an email request is to make sure I slot that demand to the bottom of my to-do pile. Remember, you asked for it :D

Seen at the back of a car

吃饭不吃菜
省钱谈恋爱

We were parked behind a car which had that sticker. When Bobo read it, he said this instead:

吃饭不吃菜

大便硬硬来

 

Hokkien Booboos - Overheard in a canteen

This conversation was entirely in Hokkien, and overheard by Bobo who was standing behind this Indian dude who was conversing with the canteen operator in Hokkien (kudos to him, I can only understand the bad words). The auntie standing next to the canteen operator listened in on the conversation and wanting to praise the guy said this in Hokkien:

" 瘦瘦一枝骨, 功夫慢慢出" (correct statement: 瘦瘦一枝骨, 功夫看不出)

Note: Since I can't write in the dialect, I will write in Mandarin, please interpret yourself *lol*.

The canteen operator said 好黄 while Bobo sniggered behind the nonplussed guy.

Change

I abhor change. Change brings uncertainty which means I have to go manage it most of the time. Which also drives me to anticipate change until sometimes I feel like I am turning into a worry wart or paranoid person who always see the glass as half full... of poison.

So today I am mugging for an exam tomorrow (long story how that happened) and because I am the kind of person who is tempted by tv shows and other earthly desires, I can't study at home. I sometimes think that it's because as a child I was not taught self control. My parents always saw the need to ground me or impose "tv verboten" on me, warden-style that I cannot study well  unsupervised... 

Eg. A few months ago, Arbeit required me to study for exam, 22 topics passing grade 70%. I couldn't study on my own... and went home to my parents, tail between my legs to study under their watchful eye (age: 34).

So today, I went to the library to study because as usual i wasted the morning of my leave watching American tv. It has just undergone Reno (ie the change ) but for once I appreciate the change. Because I am now sitting on a tall wooden stool with no backing and no cushion. If i don't concentrate and fall asleep I am going to fall down and crack my head ala humpty dumpty. Making major inroads on studying, barring taking a break to type this entry.