Being Kind and Thoughtful to a Girl May Not Help You when Wooing Her

Upon reading back on my earlier entries on BGR, I realised one particular landmine in the rocky road to a budding romance.

So a while back, my male colleagues declared that they would be especially nice to the girl they are interested in (refer to Points 1 and 2 especially). But unless you are usually a big arschloch to the womankind (I have been privy before to the intriguing rehabilitation of a misogynistic geek to the charms of a beautiful programmer. Sad to say, it did not end well.), it may not be immediately obvious to the girl, leading to chaotic consequences; (1) She thinks you are a nice guy, i.e. hell would freeze over before she ends up with you, unless all the bad and exciting men have died somewhere somehow. But she will find you when the latest bad man in her life treats her like crap, which will be pretty frequent. (2) she thinks you are nice to everyone (but she doesn't like you more than as a friend) and mistakenly tries to introduce you to her single friends who will also favour a bad man over you. (3) A vulnerable, fragile she falls head over heels in love with you, or thinks that she is, leading to a very bad ending where she will either fall out of love with you, or her husband/lover/ boyfriend/ current bad man will kill you. This is a especially scary situation if you don't like her. (4) She thinks you are gay (especially easily misunderstood for metrosexual and very SNAGGY guys) (5) she is already open to having a relationship with you => your success rate using this method can reap potentially significant gains.

Notice my final point. The assumption is that she has to be already interested in you or is open to having a romance (could be anyone at this point), in order for your being kind and thoughtful to work. Oh yeah, I digress here a bit, if you have been a super shy guy or nasty piece of work to all of womankind, it will also be very hard for you to get her. Note: being bad to your girl is ok *hate to say it but treat them mean, keep them keen does work most of the time*, being bad to every girl is not ok, you will gain a nasty reputation and women are gossipy.

I  feel for the extroverted guy who is nice to everyone. Because he is fair to all, acts of particular kindness will be taken for granted by the target because she and everyone else expects that of him.  Worse still, if he is successful and gains a girlfriend, she will (1) forbid him to be nice to other girls to prevent scenarios 3 and/ or 5, as mentioned earlier, because she will never feel secure in the relationship (2) quarrel with him all the time, also because of the same reason, leading to a very short-lived romance (3) be the nice to everyone kind of girl, and he will have to beat other guys off with a stick.

Goodbye Mininova (and SceneTorrents)

Starting from today, only approved publishers are allowed to upload files to Mininova. Thanks to a Dutch court ruling that Mininova has to remove all links to ahem torrents within 3 months and face the consequences.

I would like to offer my appreciation and thanks to the Mininova team for the excellent work they put in for the last five years (Thank you for doing so up until the very last day of the three month deadline). To the courts persecuting Mininova, Pirate Bay and the rest of the torrent sites,  I say... I love the challenge. I guess there is finally a advantage to being slightly multilingual.

Saturday Munchies 12 - Fun with Sushi

Remember that I got a child-friendly sushi maker at the AFA09?

Well,  yesterday being Saturday and all, I decided to make sushi. Not before making the hapless Town Mouse chase all over NTUC looking for my slighly more exotic sushi ingredients, jelly fish, chuka hotate, crab stick, zucchini (dear boy bought me organic zucchini, because he couldn't find the usual GM kind *haha*), pickled radish and stuff, while I burnt my pot of carefully prepared rice (because I was too lazy to watch the fire, and went back to play the no-brainer yet addictive Delicious - Emily's Holiday Season).

I made some miso soup with radish and kelp, in case the sushi turned out to be disgusting.

The first roll made by my sushi maker.

Despite the mishap, there was plenty of rice left, unfortunately Town Mouse didn't want to eat much because he was so starved he ate Vater's leftover chicken (from his chicken puff pie endeavour the previous day) before I could finish cutting everything. So there was a lot of rice left, so I made some pressed fried rice. Haha, I call it pressed fried rice, because I actually stacked up everything in the bento box then remembered that I hadn't taken a photo yet... Please ignore the disgusting piece of seaweed lying like a carcase on the rice. It insults my sense of aesthetic, but was dumped on by Mutter who couldn't stand waste. If it had been me, I would have made a lovely .i. shape of it. Keke.

This reminds me, I bought some udon noodles for my breakfast, and I haven't used it yet!!!

Backdated Ancient Nihonjin Porn Article - More on the Ole Hero Shigeo Tokuda

This geriatic Japanese pehpeh, Shigeo Tokuda, was previously featured in Tail Chasers. I couldn't leave my old man behind. So here is the article again, with even more fun pictures from other sites such as Nippon Sekai, Weird Asia News etc.

The story is that the retired salaryman wanted to indulge in porn (that specialised in kissing??? Is it...) twenty years ago, since his wife and him are leading increasingly separate lives.While he was fascinated with the plot (yes, Japanese porn actually has slightly better constructs than its American counterpart.), he was too embarrassed to buy it off the shelf, so he went to the source itself (not the porn actresses, but the production company). Because he was such a frequent visitor *keke*, he made friends with a director, who saw the increasing demand for ancient nihonjin porn, and invited him to star in one two years later...

Now 75 years old (one year on from that article), he is still happily pounding away on  young chicks and old ladies alike or ordering the former to have sex with other men. The kind of life many men would love to live. I know I would (but not the latter act, cos that would be stupid). (The best part of it all, his wife and grown daughter love to do the Japanese polite Ignorance-Is-Bliss tactic. To them and everyone else, Daddy is a part-time actor... *grin*)

Vater's Munchies @ My Destructive Hand - Chicken Puff Pie Becomes Bun

Vater was making chicken puff pies on Friday, when I walked into the kitchen for a drink. Being my usual destructive self, I decided I wanted to make my own version (see bottom right of picture, the one with the satay-stick-holed heart. Vater's are the three on the bigger plate). Instead of making many thin layers to simulate puff layers, I was lazy and just flattened the pastry out into a very thin layer which I used to envelop the chicken + onion and celery+carrot+potato mixtures Vater had prepared earlier.

Viola! My Chicken Puff Pie turned out to be Chicken Bun. 挂羊头卖狗肉!!!